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A masochistic man left a comment on one of my sites. He recounted being beaten by a -forgive the word - fat woman in her fifties. Her own relish in her sadism was all he needed for his own happiness.
He contrasts sharply with the men who state that they are looking for a beautiful dominant woman. Presumably a female whose glossy symmetrical exterior would win her place in the pages of Maxim or Playboy.
I’m not going to chastise these guys for their narrowly channeled lust. I suspect the confinement of their desires leaves them more chaste than wearing a CB-6000 might. Perhaps their sexual orientation leaves them unable to have any erotic experience - even being whipped - with anyone other than a hottie.
If you are a man who has decided that you’ll submit (cough) only to beautiful, conventionally sexy dominant women I hope you’ve looked in the mirror.
Do you look like Hugh Jackman, Zac Efron or any other man celebrated for his sex appeal? Would the editors of Freshmen offer you a photo session?
If not: why do you expect a gorgeous woman to find you her object of desire? Hmmm?
If pinup level looks is a fixed requirement you’ll need to consider hiring a professional dominatrix. Caveat: most of the ProDommes you see photos of are models. They don’t do domination or sex work at all. So you may have to travel a considerable distance to find a professional dominatrix meeting your standards. And she’ll expect you to pay a very hefty fee.
Good luck!
Comments
One of the real blessings in life is to be attracted to the type of people who are attracted to, and will like, you. I have a friend, for instance, who is a nice-looking, middle-aged feminist pagan man - a “unicorn” in his own setting - and who loves feminist pagan women of his own age. He need never fear being alone involuntarily.
If you can’t achieve that level of perfection, merely avoiding being attracted only to the very most popular models of your chosen sex is helpful.
Posted by: Dev | May 10, 2009 3:34 PM
I remember the first couple of times - as an adult- I found myself attracted to someone significantly older. It was an enormous relief. I feared I’d be limited by ageism.
Thankfully as I’ve aged persona has lots to do with attraction. And with kink, complementary kinkiness.
Posted by: Richard | May 11, 2009 8:20 AM
I suspect there’s a distinct correlation between how likely someone is to actually pursue a Femdom interaction and how realistic their expectations are. I wouldn’t be surprised to find most of those who profess to be looking only for the drop dead gorgeous Femdoms are the ones who would never pursue anything beyond their imaginations (and their computer screens).
Posted by: Lady Julia | May 11, 2009 7:53 PM
I have been online in an out for many years. I have met dominant women and even I had a few relationships. I have honestly and openly tried to build D/s relationships, perhaps is me,BUT it didn’t work for the time I have invested. Often I am wondering if Domme women really know what they want.Of course they will tell you “yes” but their actions often contradict their words. Personally I found a way to have Dommes beg me to dominate me, they wear what I ask, they are polite and appreciative and they are many:I use professional services. There is no greater liberation than getting out of the internet and it’s craziness or declining all these ClubFem parties where 100 guys run behind two women.It works on my terms, frees me time I have choices and guess what: it is cost effective. I believe that using professionals and turning the back to Dommes and ladies with attitude is the best way to walk away from the hellish-never ending dating scene, especially the D/sbdsm scene. Guys just go to a pro and leave the Dommes alone.They have a whole wish list but they dont like guys with wish-list,go figure, so just leave them alone and find other sources to please yourself.
Posted by: hectoire | July 6, 2009 6:51 PM
hectoire, I am interested to find out what you mean by domme that don’t really know what they want.
Posted by: oopsreally | August 10, 2009 3:46 AM
oopsreally, I imagine what he means is that dommes don’t want what he wants them to want. :)
Posted by: hmm | October 18, 2009 2:48 AM
I am happy to see these comments. Got an extreme beating a few hours ago from A woman exploring domination. She went on for about an hour And I still feel the pain. Want more females like her. Not sure how to find them.
Posted by: chickster12 | December 2, 2009 8:55 AM