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If you don’t have any real life experience with power exchange and S&M you are apt to be so trapped by your imagination you don’t really know how to talk about what you desire (or have clear perceptions of those seeming needs).
Finding blogs that reflect your appetites and hopes and leaving comments on the blogger’s writings is a simple beginning in learning how to talk (and think) about BDSM. Or kink-free Female Led Relationships (ahem).
You’ll find you have a host of misperceptions. Men and women who actually play or are in committed relationships can teach you how kink and fetish actually fit into their lives. There’s tremendous diversity.
The same is true of forums. You have to disinhibit yourself in order to talk openly and honestly.
Some men will learn that women aren’t looking to run their home like Gitmo. Others that penis pictures don’t make for friendships.
Others will learn the right vocabulary and manner for addressing others. Not that any one style is always appropriate. Some women like some level of protocol. Others can’t abide it. And one of the lessons you need to learn is that you are communicating with individuals. Dominant women aren’t stamped out at the female sadist factory.
Lastly there may be one or more munch groups in or near where you live that have a mailing list. This can be a good first step to preparing to meet someone local, perhaps at a munch group meeting.
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There’s a wee problem with that bit of advice…
My own experience has shown me that the forums are filled with people who simply sit at their computers waxing profound on subject matter they have no real time experience with.
What’s more, they LOVE to come off as experts and a novice will lack the experience to know.
There’s also something about our society that has trained us to presume that when something is in print it must be true. This assumption has spilled over to what we read on the internet!
There is much misinformation spread out all over the internet.
Perhaps you can suggest some forums that you have personally found to have solid information.
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Posted by: rormenganda | February 28, 2010 11:44 AM