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Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:56:40 -0500

Author: Dev
Date: Feb 28, 2010 12:31 PM
URL: http://devastatingyet.wordpress.com/

In and out of BDSM, the creation and portrayal of fantasy women by men online is fairly rampant. One of my oldest and dearest online friends has a several-year serious relationship on Second Life, where his character is a young, submissive woman with the typical exaggerated characteristics. Things you read online should always be run through a common sense filter, though of course if you’re just using the blogs as fantasy material, I guess it doesn’t matter anyway.

Submissive Men : Interact Online

Mon, 18 Jan 2010 15:11:24 -0500

Author: rormenganda
Date: Feb 28, 2010 11:44 AM

Theyre right on top of us, and Savous and Hyle are both on the surface. See to your people, take a bath, hold Irin �a wistful pause there� then we should talk. She shook her head. Arkir grabbed for Lanthan and managed to keep his hold as the smaller man twisted. Dont put me to sleep. He came up beside her, extinguishing the magelight. Startled from her thoughts, she glanced up at him. Since you will be the test subject, I think youll be feeling more than seeing. She raised her hand and knocked. But that wasnt to be. Yes, Brevin agreed, thumbing aside a tear that slid down her cheek. She startled badly when hands closed over her shoulders from behind. She cant make it easy, can she? While enjoyable, shed yet to have sex and feel the bare, physical beauty of it. The larger part of her brain writhed with the rest of her body. He held her hips, and they stayed still, simply enjoying the connection. Unexpected emotion welled in her throat at the very thought. Sadness washed over his face, although a small smile remained. For the rest of the life Ive been given. She licked his lips.

Never Too Old to Start

Sat, 14 Mar 2009 07:14:33 -0500

Author: Innocentnubie
Date: Jan 30, 2010 7:07 PM

I whole heartedly agree with “Out of my Frigid Fifties!” I much prefer the company of a mature woman than a much younger one! Mature women are usually comfortable in their skin, know what they want, mannerly and how to communicate with a man! You go girl!

Going to a Munch Group

Wed, 30 Aug 2006 13:48:34 -0500

Author: Innocentnubie
Date: Jan 30, 2010 6:59 PM

That article is the most intellignet, articulate and well written I have read on being a submissive! I am a sub, and I throughly enjoyed the information particularly as I am new to this scene! Great advice for a new sub to hear!

Submissive Men : Interact Online

Mon, 18 Jan 2010 15:11:24 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 19, 2010 4:45 AM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

There’s a wee problem with that bit of advice… My own experience has shown me that the forums are filled with people who simply sit at their computers waxing profound on subject matter they have no real time experience with. What’s more, they LOVE to come off as experts and a novice will lack the experience to know. There’s also something about our society that has trained us to presume that when something is in print it must be true. This assumption has spilled over to what we read on the internet! There is much misinformation spread out all over the internet. Perhaps you can suggest some forums that you have personally found to have solid information.

Who Should Say Hello First?

Fri, 27 Jul 2007 16:50:43 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 17, 2010 8:01 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

Actually, a man’s submissiveness is not “secondary” to his qualities as a partner and it IS one of his qualities as a partner and, therefore, equally important. That said, if the “meeting” occurs on a lifestyle dating site it may be taken for granted - as long as his role as a submissive or slave is clear from his profile. I agree with the statement that sub/slave males should totally initiate contact. My ex did so via one such site and had he not we never would have met.

Submissive Guys: What Kind of Man Are You?

Sat, 23 May 2009 08:18:23 -0500

Author: Severin
Date: Jan 16, 2010 4:17 PM

I’m a submissive male and as far back as i can remember I have wanted to be owned by a woman. Now at 45 yrs of age I am still to make this thought that5 drives me, a reality. I have no desire to use paraphernalia or dress up for a session of BDSM. I intend to live a normal life but with a woman who knows that she is deeply loved and revered. Yes I crave to perform base acts of devotion to her/for her and my own selfish lust but I want these acts to be spontaneous (at her whim) I am begining to fear that i will never come to know this life. I think that in the future it will be more easily achievable as society slowly changes but its not changing fast enough for me. I have channelled my energies into writing. I now have a Female Supremacy adventure novel published (The Scars of Obsession)and as I am here writing its sequel i am finding myself making a contingencey plan…If I don’t find my one true owner within a year from now, i’ll venture further to find her/rescue her from some third world inner city, poverty stricken domain and lead her into a very unexpected new life…maybe this is why I was put on this earth to find Love in this way and transform both our lives. Does this sound crazy? Desperate? Ill-fated? I don’t know, what I do know is that at 45 I am getting to be crazed and desperate to make my ideal lifestyle come true.

Admit Your Needs

Mon, 02 Mar 2009 01:56:06 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 15, 2010 9:20 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

P.S. (LOL) Something I hadn’t thought about in my last post was this… We as women also need to admit our needs to ourselves - this is not advice only for men. The expectations of men by society as a whole has really lowered the bar. Vanilla women have learned to be satisfied with little and this only further enables piss-poor male behaviours. Women have been trained through exposure to count our blessings if we get some couch potato who’s got a job and doesn’t cheat! As if this deserves some award. We have learned to keep our standards low, but the mistake there is that women keep making allowances and then the already low standards drop even further. We MUST ask ourselves what it is that we really need - and not just want. Then we must hold fast to this awareness. My father once said to me “Melhor sozinha do que mal acompanhada”. *That’s Portuguese for “Better alone than in poor company.” Standards matter and we cannot allow the insults of disgruntled rejected males change this truth in our minds and hearts.

Admit Your Needs

Mon, 02 Mar 2009 01:56:06 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 15, 2010 6:46 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

The unfortunate thing here is the nature of fetishism. For so many men the heavy fetish is being known as a submissive or even a slave. They are lying to themselves first so it follows that they misrepresent themselves to the women they are trying to attract. I know there have been many times when I have called someone on merely being a fetishist and not a submissive or slave and was then faced with total denial and even abuse. A man who says “I wish to serve you in any way you choose - beat me, whip me, abuse me” is not a submissive and definitely not a slave. A man who says “Please tell me how it is I may serve” is.

Wooing a Domme Online

Fri, 20 Mar 2009 10:36:53 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 15, 2010 6:28 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

What I like to see in an approach… A greeting. “Hello my name is XYZ” (a NAME and not an online handle). The reason for the approach - believe it or not it is not always clear as many simply wish to “chat” and have no intention of a real relationship. What it was about my profile that inspired the approach. Age and health status. Relationship status - this REALLY matters. If you have children. If so, their ages as this will impact any possible future relationships. The type of relationship you seek - it is not obvious. Some seek a service-only relationship, some seek casual play, some seek something that looks more like marriage. We want to know from the beginning. Profession. Hobbies - nothing fetish-related. Fetish interests. Hard limits. A clear photo - no nudes or genitals without being asked first please! Sign it respectfully with your name and, again, not your “handle”.

Looking for Submissive Men Can Be Stressful

Sat, 28 Feb 2009 17:32:43 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 15, 2010 6:15 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

LOL! Ah, yes… I have heard many repeat the theory that male submissives vastly outnumber female dominants and that all we have to do is choose. This is simply not true. Like the author of the post, I have encountered many liars - they lie about their marital status, their appearance, their availability and their sincerity to mention just a few possibilities. Then there are the disappearing acts - the men you feel real potential with, are really getting along, you spend time engaging and sharing via correspondence and “boom”…they just stop replying without so much as a brief note expressing they’ve had a change in heart. Appalling. I know this is not impossible. I had a collared pet for just over 2 years and we did meet online - I had been on that site for 3 years and he approached me on his first day. Go figure! We corresponded for months before I had agreed to meet him and when I finally did he was much more attractive than he was in the photos he had sent - unusual. What is even more remarkable was that I was not seeking a partner at the time. He had approached as a hopeful servant and this is where we first made our connection. The connection then evolved into something very different. I uncollared him just a few months ago. Since then I have encountered the same problems that the author of this post writes about and yet one more… It seems that some sites do not have a femdom-friendly environment. I decided to try out CL as the more “appropriate” sites are rife with self-serving fetishists posing as submissive. Add to this that the men on these sites do very much only see me in 2 dimensions due to my professional status. They do not see the whole woman, but rather see me as a means to their end. I placed a post on CL and man did the sh*t hit the fan! One day my post was flagged no less than 5 times - despite the fact that I was in no way breaching the TOS. What’s more, “people” (presumably men) started placing posts blatantly slandering me - claiming I was “short, fat and ugly” and that I was simply soliciting for “donations”! As the system is unmoderated, there is no one to complain to. I am able to repost many of the times I am flagged, however there are a maximum number of posts allowed and when frequently flagged I hit my maximum quickly. That said, something fascinating happened… I started receiving letters of support. LOL! Then there’s the fact that I am also a professional. Women like myself have another set of problems. There seems to be a presumption that being professional and being lifestyle are mutually exclusive. No one would presume that a doctor would never treat a loved one “on the house” or that a teacher wouldn’t do the same out of love. What’s more, as men have a tendency towards possessiveness, most are not at all willing to continue communications once they discover I am a professional - despite the fact I only do this on occasion, that I am not sexually involved with my clients and that I am very much monogamous. It is very much frustrating, but I can’t believe it’s impossible. I’ve decided to not think about it too much, get more focused on my career and simply see what happens organically. Active efforts are officially making me crazy.

Submissive Guys: What Kind of Man Are You?

Sat, 23 May 2009 08:18:23 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 15, 2010 5:46 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

While this is a very solid and accurate article there is one thing that I (respectfully) disagree with… That the profile description need not be any longer than the article itself. My own profile on all of the “appropriate” sites is quite detailed as I get into who and what I am as a dominant as well as who and what I am beyond this. I cannot agree more with the importance in honesty. It is appalling how many will blatantly lie when describing themselves - and not just physically. This wastes everyone’s time as clearly the truth comes out should a meeting actually happen. That said, it seems to me that many will lie in order to achieve some email exchanges and must be satisfied with this.

Worthless Submissive Men

Sun, 22 Mar 2009 22:18:35 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 15, 2010 5:23 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

It does, indeed, blow my mind when someone approaches me with the “I’m not worthy” or even better in the third person “This unworthy slave…” If someone approaches stating that he is “unworthy” I can only assume that he is and promptly ignore. the men who really feel this way need a therapist and not a domme. The women who enable this could use some serious help as well. A short article, but to the point and very real.

Femdom First Dates

Sun, 08 Mar 2009 17:40:58 -0500

Author: Ms. Marina Black
Date: Jan 15, 2010 4:49 PM
URL: http://www.servemarinablack.com

I have just accidentally come across this site and so far I must say “Wow, what a breath of fresh air!” There are so many misconceptions regarding the reality of femdomme - mostly perpetuated by the internet and porn. As someone who has recently re-entred the dating pool, I have found myself frustrated immensely by the expectations of men - particularly because I am also a fairly well-known professional and those approaching do only see me in 2 dimensions for the most part. I have to say this article is in keeping with what I would say. Many thanks to the poster.

Submissive Guys: What Kind of Man Are You?

Sat, 23 May 2009 08:18:23 -0500

Author: Dr Sexology
Date: Dec 24, 2009 4:39 PM

The only kind of Domme you’ll find who is willing to discreetly help a man cheat on his wife is a professional dominatrix. You don’t really have anything to offer a woman who wants to do it for fun. Really.

Submissive Guys: What Kind of Man Are You?

Sat, 23 May 2009 08:18:23 -0500

Author: Paul
Date: Dec 24, 2009 4:22 PM

IU am a 57 year old bi male. I am happily married to a woman for 30 years and have 2 grown children. She soesnt know that I am Bi or that I am very submissive. I have hidden it for eyars and will always do that. However I have cheated on my wife ( but not in the last 20 years), with a dom or domme or two. Before we were married I also had a few encounters with being a submissive Bi. Now I fantasize all the time about it and would like to act the fantasies out. ( I am a little affraid that she will find out, and I wouldnt want that to happen though). I would be a very good submissive slave, but it would have to be part tiem and very discreet

Femdom First Dates

Sun, 08 Mar 2009 17:40:58 -0500

Author: Licentious
Date: Dec 23, 2009 12:43 PM

First date with a Domme: Two things: the first date should show you’ve done your homework and can put on a good show, but secondly, it should not set her expectations too high, i.e. if it works, be prepared to do it again. First of all - lose the labels. A woman worthy of respect wants to be treated as such. Just as the heiress or the princess don’t want to be just a label, the Domme doesn’t want treated like a caricature or a two dimensional person. That goes for you as well. Don’t be a “sub”, be someone “worth” dominating. Show her that you’re worthy of her time and attention. Next, do your homework. Check out every source you can (including other members of her community) to find out what she likes. Is she active and outgoing? Does she like lots of activity or does she prefer quiet and privacy? Ball game or art gallery? Intellectual or emotional? Remember, the first date needs to revolve around her, not you. Whatever you do, don’t suggest a date until you know what she likes to eat and drink. Because it’s a first date, it should start with an activity. That gives time for some shared experience, so that you’re not having to bridge those awkward silences when you don’t know what to say. Ideas include a vinyard wine tasting tour, hiking in the hills, an art gallery opening, go kart racing, one of those pottery places where you can decorate and fire a piece together, a cake decorating seminar, flying in a glider, a bicycle built for two or a latin dancing lesson. After that needs to come some alone together time. Maybe you could row her around a quiet pond, or find an outlook with an isolated bench. Walking barefoot along a beach or through a park, etc. etc. Finally, the meal. If you’re not a gourmet chef with an immaculate condo, go for the best restaurant you can afford. Hint: get the head waiter in on it. Tell them in advance that this is a special Lady and you want the experience to be so romantic that the restaurant will become “our place”. Hint 2: try ordering the same entree as your Lady and sharing a dessert. Hint 3: think of some topics of conversation, anecdotes, revealing stories about your past, etc. ahead of time so you’re not fumbling for words. Finally, if this is a woman you want to give yourself to, you will be under pressure. Don’t sweat it. She will appreciate a little nervousness in you. It shows that you care. It’s also ok for a few silences. If you’re enjoying something together or touching in some way, then there is already a conversation going on. Show your emotions. Describe how you feel. Lots of eye contact and you might just lose yourself on the first date. Good luck! Lic

Submissive Guys: What Kind of Man Are You?

Sat, 23 May 2009 08:18:23 -0500

Author: Sharon
Date: Dec 19, 2009 4:16 PM

I am a 54-year old male who is divorced and find myself relaxing by using feminine douche, tampons, hair remover lotion and keeping nail polish on my toenails. At present I am fully dressed as a woman, including having a fresh tampon in my love canal, panties with a sanitary napkin, coffee color pantyhose, three inch heels, black bra with my silicone breast inserts glued on, skirt and a pull over sweater. I am also wearing foundation, face powder, eyeliner, eye shadow,mascara, blush with red lip gloss and earrings.

Dommes Are Searching For?

Thu, 24 Aug 2006 10:39:18 -0500

Author: Richard
Date: Dec 2, 2009 9:38 AM

A paid membership in Alt.com.

Dommes Are Searching For?

Thu, 24 Aug 2006 10:39:18 -0500

Author: chickster12
Date: Dec 2, 2009 9:24 AM
URL: http://femdom

I am new to submission and Tried Cl unsuccessfully. Need some ideas. Just one comment on the female in the pic. Would not even say a word to submit to her Without reservation. That includes bleeding For her.

Beautiful, Sexy Femdom

Sat, 09 May 2009 11:24:38 -0500

Author: chickster12
Date: Dec 2, 2009 8:55 AM

I am happy to see these comments. Got an extreme beating a few hours ago from A woman exploring domination. She went on for about an hour And I still feel the pain. Want more females like her. Not sure how to find them.

Beautiful, Sexy Femdom

Sat, 09 May 2009 11:24:38 -0500

Author: hmm
Date: Oct 18, 2009 2:48 AM

oopsreally, I imagine what he means is that dommes don’t want what he wants them to want. :)

Submissive Guys: What Kind of Man Are You?

Sat, 23 May 2009 08:18:23 -0500

Author: Firstman
Date: Sep 9, 2009 2:40 AM
URL: http://femdomdating.com

I want to be the perfect caretaker. I am an alpha male. I get things done. 5’6”,handsome. 209 pounds. 20 pounds overweight. I have man boobs as I used to be fat but lost 130 pounds. I bike, play tennis, and love adult conversation. I am available to be someone’s property. I loved richards story. My goal is to sleep on th efloor next to my Queens bed to be near her and keep her safe. She can entertain herself with me as she sees fit. I will make her glad she chose me with my vicious devotion. ANd I am healthy. Mentally and physically. I want to clean the kitchen while my lady sleeps with whomever in the next room. i will serve breakfast. I will make her smile with my touch. Someone please email me with a time and place for my intro and training. I just want to be close to my lady, to be near her. To beallowed in her inner circle, to put nail polish on her. I will have whatever physical arangement she desires. I am normally endowed. My mother wanted a girl and let me know it. I never want to have intercourse. Unless I am commanded, then I can get rock hard for as long as you like. My dream is to be put to work by my mistress. Tomorrow at noon too soon?

Beautiful, Sexy Femdom

Sat, 09 May 2009 11:24:38 -0500

Author: oopsreally
Date: Aug 10, 2009 3:46 AM

hectoire, I am interested to find out what you mean by domme that don’t really know what they want.

Submissive Guys: What Kind of Man Are You?

Sat, 23 May 2009 08:18:23 -0500

Author: sitface
Date: Aug 2, 2009 6:10 PM